Guest post by Rebecca Jones Howe, author of Vile Men
I've written a rape scene.
Okay, more than
one rape scene. There, I said it.
In recent years, or at least since that
awful scene in Game of Thrones aired, rape scenes have been very talked-about facets of the literary world.
Before writing this article, I asked Google, “What is so bad about rape
scenes?” and was given a myriad of answers. I'm sure you've read some of the
the articles that make note of the answer. I'm sure you already understand why
rape scenes are problematic. Long story short, this post isn't going to be
another rehashing of the “graphic rape scenes are terrible” argument, because
there are plenty of writers out there who have explained it much more
succinctly than I ever could.
As a feminist, I often read articles
criticizing rape scenes and always end up taking a long and hard look at my
writing. Often times I feel like I've committed some kind of special feminist
sin. A few years ago I had a writer friend casually ask me, “Why do you write so
much about rape?”
It was a question I couldn't provide an
answer to.
My writing, at its core, has always dealt
in some sense with sexuality. My short story collection is called “Vile Men”,
and whenever I tell people about my writing career and they ask me for the
title of my book, I always cringe before saying it. I know that I'm going to
have to laugh awkwardly, and then that I'm going to have to explain it, and
then that hidden part of my psyche will fester within the real world and all of my new co-workers are
going to buy my book and read it and then not want to talk to me about what
they thought.
People definitely internalize the concept
of rape in different ways. As a woman who grew up being told to be wary of
strangers, I can say that it doesn't take long to learn that “stranger” really
meant “bad men”. It also doesn't take long to learn what it was those bad man
do. The concept of rape becomes a thought that never goes away. And instead of
fearing it all the time I tried to understand it, tried to play with it, tried
to brush it away, tried to overpower it.
Sometimes it was through fantasy. I'd like
to say that the fantasies were ones where I'd get that whole “wolverine keys
between your fingers” tactic actually worked, but they never were.
Sometimes it was through writing. And that
writing always involved rape scenes. Sometimes they were violent. Sometimes
they were erotic. And therein lies the problem.
Unfortunately there aren't as many articles
about rape fantasies as there are about why rape scenes are lazy writing. Most
women hide that kind of stuff, mainly because the rape fantasies are believed
to stem from some age-old beliefs about the way women should act in the
confines of societal standards, as this article states. Women have and still want to be desired, and women have and still are
raised believing that any sort of sexual desire is something to be ashamed of.
Those messages are internalized and manipulated. Even if a woman has a rape
fantasy, she's still the one in control.
That's why it's a fantasy and why most
women are hesitant to talk about them. It's personal stuff.
There's a whole genre of erotic fiction
about rape and kidnapping fantasies, but I often find most of them unreadable,
even if written well. Most of the plots end with some kind of Stockholm
syndrome brand of happily ever after. They're never grounded in any sense of
realism, and I prefer my fiction to exist in some facet of reality when it
comes to human nature. I once wrote an erotica short under a pen-name that I
published on Amazon, about a woman who posts a Craiglist ad asking a man to
break into her house in order to engage in some rape-fantasy play. It was at
least taking the “home invasion” plot but making it consensual. It was rapey
but it was also fun, though there was one review I received that criticised the
protagonist's decision to let a man break into her house as neither safe nor
sane and that the story was horrible for that reason alone, and that criticism
just bothered me. If you can't tread those safe and sane borders in fiction,
then honestly, what is the point? One could argue that I'm basically making the
same argument by taking issue with the “happily ever after” kidnapping
storylines, so I'm not exactly one to judge here.
Nevertheless, that's why I have a
difficult time writing “erotica”. Fantasies usually make for trashy fiction.
That isn't inherently a bad thing, but because I like to keep my fiction within
the realms of literary, I often have a difficult time articulating my
perspective on the issues with rape directly. Instead, I do it through my
fiction. I tell my perspective through my stories.
Rape isn't about sex. It's about power.
Vile Men is
a collection about sex and power. It's about how the genders handle that power,
depending on the situations the characters are placed into. Most of the stories
are told from the female perspective, but there are a handful of stories told
from a male POV as well. Both genders have their handle of power. Most of the
sex is consensual, though the collection has two stories that deal with rape.
The first, titled “Better Places” is told from the female perspective. The
other, “Grin on the Rocks” is told from an insecure male's POV.
“Better Places” is my zombie story, which a
lot of people take as being a metaphor of the awful things humans do to each
other and how they become real-life zombies. When I wrote it, I wanted the
antagonist, Judah, to represent the arrogance people attain when they believe
they hold all the cards. When the story's unnamed female protagonist finds
Judah's fortified B&B on the side of the highway, she is desperate for
safety, and is willing to give him exactly what he wants. Later, when the B&B
is raided by bandits, Judah offers up the woman in lieu of shooting them dead.
The story takes on an element of ridiculousness when the bandits return day
after day, trading Judah luxuries from the outside world for another lay with
the woman. Judah dons a silk bathrobe, drinks Chianti, and sprays the woman
with expensive perfume. He revels in his vanity and forgets about the world
outside. It's a story about entitlement and how it affects those who are
alienated by it the most.
My other rape scene exists in the story,
“Grin on the Rocks”. The original draft of the story was about a sociopath
character and the unhinged life he lives. That draft was what I would classify
was “edgy”. Most of the scenes existed for the purpose of being edgy, and I
spent a couple years after penning the story trying to tame its message down.
It wasn't until after the Isla Vista mass shooting in 2014, and after Elliot
Rodger's unhinged manifesto was published online that I picked up the
inspiration for the story. I became obsessed with the insecure male conscious
and the stereotypes of sexuality that build men like the shooter of that
tragedy. “Grin on the Rocks” is about an attractive young man named Jonah who
seemingly has no trouble attracting the opposite sex. Women throw themselves at
him, and he is powerless to turn away their advances. While he often feels
alienated by female sexuality, he is told by his male co-worker that his
position is one to be envied. The hyper-sexualized culture of modern society
grips Jonah's daily life in such a way that he is unable to understand women
and unable to establish a meaningful relationship with one. He sees himself a
victim of female sexuality, and ends up reacting in the worst possible way.
“Better Places” and “Grin on the Rocks” are
the two stories I'm often asked about in Vile Men. The response is
usually positive, and usually incites elaborate discussion that I enjoy taking
part in. All I can say is that I never intended to write the rape scenes within
those stories from an objective or a violent perspective. I wrote them to
examine what rape meant to me. The scenes are intense, but I wrote them with
the intent to convey the emotion behind the action, as opposed to just the
event of rape itself.
I suppose readers can decipher what they
want from those scenes. I've had some feedback from readers who felt the
stories leaned more towards trying to be deliberately edgy than insightful.
While it can be frustrating as a writer to hear from a reader who didn't
understand the point I was trying to get across, I also understand that fiction
is subjective. People will write articles about the Sansa Stark rape scene
forever, and they are definitely free to do so. Originally I liked the fact
that I didn't have to experience that scene though Sansa's perspective, but
some of the articles criticizing it have helped me feel otherwise. It still
wouldn't have been a great scene had the camera held Sansa's gaze that whole
time, but if you compare that scene with rape scenes from Mad Men or Orange is the New Black, for instance, you can see how
those rapes impacted the characters in such a way that charged their characters
after.
Honestly, I'm not the ideal person to
“defend” rape scenes, because at times even I have issues with the fact that
I've written them, and the fact that I will likely still write more in the
future. I can't say for sure whether I will or won't. I just write what I
write. Most of my fiction stems from some deeply-routed issue I'm dealing with.
I don't believe the I write for the purpose of shocking people, or for the
purpose of being edgy.
But every so often I'll be walking alone
and a man passes me a glance that makes me crawl inside. Every so often I'll
have a fantasy that borders on the edge. Every so often I'll hear a story on
the news that makes stomach turn over. I'll just say that as a woman and as a
creative, that I don't have a lot of ways to deal with those feelings that
emerge.
All I have is my writing. So I write.
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